Red Flags In A Fledgling Friendship

So my fellow military spouses, ever started a friendship with someone who later turned out to be not exactly the kind of friend you desired, for lack of a better word, a little crazy? I have. A few times. I was younger, dumber and more trusting (to the point where I was friends with a hooker). Now I’m older and I know the red flags to look for in someone who is toxic.

If your new friend shows any of these red flags it doesn’t mean she’s automatically a crazy and she can still be crazy even if she doesn’t meet any of these.

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1. Has no friends from “before” whether this is before the military or from the last duty station. No friends typically means bridges were burned. Sometimes this person doesn’t even have family that they talk to. I don’t want to say run… but maybe you should. No one who is 100% innocent is disliked by everyone they’ve ever met, and they should have a few people they have connections with. If they don’t, wonder why.

2. Always a victim. At first if you are a bleeding heart like me you might think “OMG this poor girl, her life seems awful” but after a while you will see it for what it truly is.

3. Is weird about you hanging out with other friends or if you are new to the duty station (or town or college or whatever) discourages you from meeting new people.

4. Hits on your husband, even in a joking manner. I don’t think I even need to say  this one.

5. Drama seems to follow her. You’ve only known this girl for a short time, but hot damn she has had some issues. Whether other ladies, or her landlord, or her own husband.

Have you ever missed the red flags and had to deal with the consequences?

How To Entertain Your Baby

One of the hardest things about babies is keeping them entertained between naps and feeding. Sometimes genius comes to us from sheer laziness, like the toy bucket. Which my baby loves and has loved for a few months.

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It is exactly what it sounds like. A tiny bucket that I put little baby toys in. Anna Kate goes crazy for it. I could pretend like it’s good for development or something. But to be honest, I have no idea what it does for development, I just know that it allows me 5-10 minutes to clean the living room (in reality, check Facebook).

So what is in this toy bucket? A bunch of tiny baby toys that I’m sure you have lying around, like rattles, teething toys, soft little dolls, a toy phone, Sofie la Giraffe. Oh and the bucket is an old Easter basket so this bucket was basically free. Well I didn’t need to buy anything new for it.

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(In case you were wondering, the little dolls are from Hallmark’s itty bitty line and omg, they are so cute, I know, we have Tinkerbell, Rapunzel, Elsa and Aurora).

Sounds super easy, right? That’s because it is!

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And that is the proof. Look at the concentration on her face! She loves it. Sometimes the simplest things are the best things!

Sometimes You Have To Buy Into The Hype

So with Karina I avoided a lot of the “trendy” baby items and totally regretted it, this time I knew I’d listen because the trendy items are popular for a reason.

So I started hearing about Tulas later in my pregnancy and I was like “nah, I’m good, I got my Lillebaby.” I kept hearing about the Tulas and it seemed like a cult. They stock the wrap conversions every other Sunday and they would sell out in seconds. I was pretty intimidated. Oh and the prices on the Buy/Sell/Trade group on Facebook made me question everything. People also get accessories for their Tula. I was like, this is insane, I don’t understand. But like a good consumer this made me want one, but the sane side of me said, no Krista. Not in the budget when you already have a perfectly awesome baby carrier that you love.

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Fast forward to September, when it is still hot as balls here in GA. My black Lillebaby was far from ideal and I was in love. With the Oasis Tula. I imagined how perfect my life would be with it, and it wasn’t even one of the wrap conversions, it was a more affordable canvas one!

My husband went away for 2 months in Mid-October and after a week, with a clingy baby he decided to get me the Tula of my dreams. We had to hunt for it. Hard. Because it had been discontinued. We finally found one and I waited not so patiently for it.

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When it finally got to my house after what seemed like years I was so excited. I had already ordered accessories for it. Because I bought into the hype.

You guys, it was so worth the wait, and I regret not buying into the hype sooner. It is literally amazing. I love both of my carriers but my Tula has my heart.

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And I know Anna Kate loves it too.

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So my Tula was discontinued because the fabric got discontinued. I was able to get accessories made, I got suck pads and a hood. Luckily, the shop I used still had fabric left over. I was little iffy on the accessories because I was like what’s the point, but now that I have them, I love them. The shop I used is Canguro Baby on Etsy and I highly recommend her for your Tula accessories!
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My Last Baby Is 6 Months Old (Sad Face)

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As usual I am wondering how this happened so fast.

She has been sitting up on her own (without support) since right before she turned 4 months old (I know, insanity), she’s always been strong. She has no interest in rolling and is thinking maybe crawling would be fun… But standing is way more fun.

She started solids and has so far loved everything except this apple pumpkin purée I got her. Yeah, I don’t make baby food. We buy it. Totally a mommy blogger no no. Whatever.

Anna Kate is wearing 9 month sized clothing (and has since about 4 months). She is pretty huge. And adorable.

This month I also moved her to her crib and she started sleeping through the night. If I had known I could have gotten a full night of sleep just by moving her to her own room, I would have done it much sooner.

And here are some adorable pictures of from Anna Kate’s 6 month!

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The Simplest Things Can Bring You Home #SipOfHome

If you know me at all you know how much I love my coffee, so when I was invited to write a post on behalf of Gold Peak Coffee I was all for it. There is so much I could say about my love of coffee, it runs deep. Just a sip brings me home. I am so happy that Gold Peak Coffee (formerly Georgia Coffee) is now available in many more places. You can even get it at some restaurants when you eat out, really, Gold Peak Coffee is everywhere now! Between moving and traveling it’s nice to know that I can always find my preferred coffee brand to bring little sips of home, regardless of where I actually am. It’s such a simple thing, really but it definitely hits the spot.

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Sometimes, just smelling coffee can bring back memories. My grandmother to this day makes her coffee in a percolator on the stove, and I don’t think there is a more delicious smell in the world. The smell just invokes warmth and makes you want to snuggle on the couch with blankets and a nice warm cup of coffee. Which I love to do in the morning.

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Coffee is the best way to start the day, but I can’t deny I will drink it all day long, it’s the perfect drink. I’m a light roast kind of girl but I can’t hate on the decaf, it was great in the early days of nursing. I drink my coffee before my girls wake up and it is the only quiet time I get until bed time. I definitely cherish that first cup of coffee, it’s when I plot out my day and maybe think up some blog posts.

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Tracking PixelDisclosure: This is a sponsored post, written on behalf of Gold Peak Coffee, all opinions are my own.

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